Frequently asked questions

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Where did friend requests go?

Since 1.1.0 you just follow people — no request needed. When they follow you back, you're friends. Old friendships were kept as mutual follows, and pending requests became follows.

Why can't I message or teleport to someone I follow?

With follow.friends-only-actions: true (default) messages, pokes, location sharing and teleports need a mutual follow. Set it to false to allow them for anyone you follow — the other player's own settings still apply.

I use EssentialsX for /tpa

Leave teleport.provider: auto. DexFriends shows its Confirm / Accept screens but the actual teleport is Essentials' own, so its warmup, cooldown, /back and /tptoggle keep working.

The Pay button is missing

Pay needs Vault and an economy plugin (EssentialsX, CMI…). Without them the Pay button and the money line on stats hide themselves.

Do players on older versions or Bedrock still get a menu?

Yes. Java 1.21.6+ gets the dialog screens; older Java clients and Bedrock get the chest GUI with the same buttons. Force the chest GUI with ui.dialog.enabled: false.

Heads show Steve skins on my cracked server

Heads use the last skin seen for each player, so they fill in as players join. With SkinsRestorer installed, players not seen since the update are looked up there too.

How do I give VIPs a bigger limit?

Add a tier under friends.limits (e.g. vip: 100) and grant dexfriends.limit.vip. The highest matching tier wins.

Can I share friends across a network?

Yes — set storage.type: MYSQL on every server and point them at the same database.